In conjunction with International Women’s Day, I am creating a dialogue that encourages independence and individualism amongst queens. I am sure this topic will rub some folks the wrong way *Kanye shrug. But hey, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. I am listening to Frequency by Jhene Aiko while I gather my thoughts.
Hello. Bonjour. Hola. Ciao. Salama Aleikum. Jambo. Ni Hau. Happy International Women’s Day! This is one of my favorite holidays (I considered calling in sick to celebrate). I know many of you are reading the title of this post with some questions. So, let’s get straight to it. I got my first job at 14 and have been gainfully employed ever since. I finished my bachelor’s degree at 22 and will have completed my master’s degree at 25. My parents instilled in me the value of independence and freedom at a young age. I’ve always vowed to be financially independent, mentally and physically free. Which brings me to the overarching point: do not sacrifice your mind for someone else’s gain.
Can you cook? This question has been asked in the “getting to know you phase” far too often. Men of all ages objectify women in these gender conforming roles. This misogynistic frame of thinking has encouraged gender inequalities in all aspects of life. Listen, there is absolutely nothing wrong with staying at home and taking care of the kids. ONLY IF you are not blanketing your potential. Think about it, you’ve worked all this time, spent all those nights studying, and graduated. For what? To vacuum all day and watch Dr. Phil? No. You did it for you, because you had a goal, a dream, and a plan. You can be in love and be independently successful. If the love was real, he wouldn’t ask you to submit while he succeeds. Whatever friendship, relationship, situationship you’re in, maintain who you were before you met that person. Create your identity as a single person and take pride in it.
Yours in love,